In the grey

Why am I bothered when you're around,
Why am I bothered when you're not,
There are reasons why,
But you manage to drown them all.

You breeze in like a Zephyr,
There you are all in a cursory glance,
It's hardly a moment that you stay,
Then you go but never leave and I'm left in a quandary.

Never really awake, never really asleep.

The extra mile

I remember something important my teacher said when i was in middle school(his name was Pope). He told us to give a 110 percent in whatever we do. Aim higher than what you want to achieve. Run 12k if you want to get exceptional at 10k. That kind of consistency is tough to maintain for whatever you do. But if you can achieve that then you can be a master.

Thoughts on the mind

Most of the stuff below might seem quite evident but if we really take note, things can improve a lot. I have always believed in nurture over nature.

It is not directly possible to access our unconscious minds. There can be a mismatch between the conscious and unconscious mind. You might consciously not like someone but unconsciously you might have feelings. You tend to repress these feelings because of some fears, like straying away from certain goals.

You might consciously want to be someone but inside you might be different. TO change yourself inside, you need to start with the outside.
Change your behavior.
If you want to do good, start doing good. Appear, to be.
We acquire virtues by first having them put them into action... we become just by the practice of just actions, self controlled by exercising self control, and courageous by performing acts of courage. Aristotle.

Similarity & Difference

Today I realized that it is way tougher to deal with the self of others rather than your self.People go to great lengths to view the world in a way that facilitates their well being. They just do not want to let go of their rigidity. No way of convincing them.It's natural to do so. Is it ? If you have an aim, you make efforts to reach it. It's a safe path with no deviations. You have your own trusted circle. Your own group. Others are seen as different.
I guess that is the prime causation of pain. Pain for the other, a lack of solace for you. When you look at the other, perceive him as someone similar to you. Try. He definitely won't be the same! But even if you manage to find an iota of your reflection in him, that will foster an association. Don't justify the differences by rationalizing.A dose of self deception can be a good but it is also in your interest to be accurate to yourself.
Easier said than done though. From childhood itself, we are told who we are as a group and this influences our individuality. Along the way without our knowing even why, a demarcation develops between us and the other. We are told to follow certain rules to keep the other from crossing that demarcation. Not many have the time nor the effort to think of why they are following certain standards.
Basically, what i want to say is to loosen your rigidity,give some slack to the other guy. You don;t even know how similar he is to you. And you will never know unless you set out thinking that he is different from you.